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The Avoidant Attachment sub on Reddit
Find support and insight, and offer your own. This is a well-managed subReddit that is supportive of those with avoidant or disorganized styles, and has a zero-tolerance policy for avoidant bashing and other behaviors that make online spaces intolerable or useless for us—you will not get overrun or shouted down here!
Full disclosure, though this is a reasonably good overview of avoidance, especially for those with a dismissive pattern, I have several points of disagreement with the author of this page and find a bit of a deficit of validation for avoidants in some places.